Some of the questions in the previous chapter might not make sense to you. For example, we asked if you are “the type of person that will say ‘no’ to an offer to go out if you don’t feel like hanging out with that person.” If it is hard for you to say “no” to others and instead of saying “no,” you use “white lies,” which means that you are also able to tell yourself “white lies.” Being dishonest is one of the most common mistakes we make in life that keeps the best version of ourselves at bay.
It takes a long time to realize that the external world is a projection of what is happening internally. Since the external world is a pure reflection of us, it can give us a lot of information about ourselves when we take the time to observe and be aware.
For example, if you hate your job, it could be a sign that you technically don’t recognize your skills and abilities. That you are unable to clearly see what you are capable of and therefore settle for jobs that you dislike. It’s almost like you are creating your own misery.
Take a moment to list some of the things that you dislike in your environment. That could be the way that your romantic partner treats you, the way that your family makes you feel about yourself or your professional life.
What have you learned about yourself in that activity? Are there aspects of you that you want to work on? Are there some projections that you would like to address and end the cycle in your life?
In the next chapter, we will look at things that make you reactive. Reactivity is often another aspect that needs our awareness. When we learn our triggers, we learn about our true selves and what needs to heal within to be the best version of ourselves.
“You don’t see the world as it is, you see it according to who you are.” Stephen Covey